I had the pleasure of interviewing Lana Vejzovic Wilson who is an award winning aesthetics clinic and training academy owner. She is also a life and confidence coach and has some awesome insights into juggling being a parent and a business owner.
Being a mom in business is hard
We want to be successful in business but we want to be a really good mom aswell. And a good friend, wife, cleaner, cook, socialite, workout girl! Basically we want to achieve the impossible! It’s a great mindset to want to be successful and for me personally I want to show my kids that they can achieve whatever they set their minds to. And to set their goals REALLY BIG! So Ive added in some extra responsibility to not quit on what Im doing.
Create a schedule that works for you
Being self employed means its hard to switch off at 5 o clock. Its not a 9-5 and we tend to have really busy brains. Busy with ideas. Planning ahead and thinking about ways to grow and make business better. And its hard to stop checking messages and just go home, play with the children and put them to bed. It always feels like there are not enough hours in the day and it can create massive anxiety. Coupled with an uncontrollable desire to please clients all the time. The late night messages and the requests to work when you are not open. Its so hard to say no and turn the money away. If you create a fantastic business and an environment your clients want to be in they will come anyway. So its important to make everything suit your schedule. Pick hours that suit your lifestyle and your family and create your business around that. Keep work as work. You wouldn’t contact the dentist at 9pm and book an appointment. So dont let that be the way clients treat your business.
 
The dreaded mom guilt
The mom guilt is a vicious circle. You feel guilty for working to much and not being with the children or your feel guilty for taking to much downtime and not spending enough time on your business.
Mom guilt comes from not looking after ourselves. You feel like you are running out of time for everything and you don’t feel like you can have quality time with the children.
Its so hard when you have that drive and motivation to run your own business but you want to be a good mom at the same time. You don’t want to make the sacrifice. Lana says the best way to deal with mom guilt is to take the time out to look after yourself properly. If you don’t you will not be good to anyone in your family.
Take an extra ten minutes to sit outside the house in your car and finish answering your messages so that when you go inside you are in the right frame of mind and not distracted. Turn your phone to do not disturb. Anyone in your favourites will be able to contact you. Then the few hours you have with the children before bed can be dedicated and present time rather than agitated and shouty time. Set boundaries. Put the phone down. Be present in the moment. Realise that is work and this is home! Time management will help you know you have done everything and you have planned in proper time with the children.
 

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Theres no such thing as a perfect parent
Please don’t believe everything you see. And certainly don’t compare yourself to the highlights reel on someone elses Instagram. It doesn’t matter how much people appear perfect on social media, we all lose it sometimes. But it doesn’t usually end up as a perfectly filtered story. Infact, taking the time to make it perfectly filtered story means someone is taking time away from their life to upload it there. That’s normally me when I say Im going to the toilet to get some peace and quiet! We all have different ways of parenting and running a household. What works for you might not work for me. Just know whatever you are doing you are doing your best. Whatever you are putting in is good enough!
Stress slows you down
If you are stressed with anything you will not be very productive. Slow down, write your list. Plan your day the night before. Make sure you are taking time to connect with you mind, exercise, eat well and look after yourself. Taking that extra time to do those things will equal better productivity. In my Facebook group we have Supercharge Sundays which are like Self Care Sundays but we use our self care time out to supercharge our week. Lana suggests you get a business coach. They can teach you tools to deal with everyday anxiety. If you are thinking negatively or stressy you wont be productive. Investing in yourself will change how much you earn because you will believe in your worth. Nobody should tell you what you are worth. Have you found yourself whispering the price to clients before. Always thinking it was to much. When you start to believe in yourself you start to present that in your business and your friendships and relationships. Everything improves.

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Manage your time to create more of it
Plan out your priorities. Make a list of everything you need to do for the week and then divide them into must haves and important but not right now. What is the most important?
Schedule your diary to suit your lifestyle. If you don’t want to work the weekend because you want to spend time with your family then don’t. If you like to spend time with your friends or go to the gym do it. Don’t please others all the time. Plan around how your family and lifestyle fits. Be flexible. Have freedom. Get disciplined. Don’t let clients rule your business.
“You can pay me a million pound but if Im stuck at work I can’t spend it. Having freedom makes us rich.”
Remember why you made the decision to be self employed in the first place. It was to have freedom and flexibility and job satisfaction.
Team work makes the dream work.
Lets talk about the other person that parents your babies with you. Lanas husband is a huge supporter of Lana and her business and has stepped back from his own business to be at home more with their two children. She believes you either have a supportive partner or you don’t have one at all. Find a support system that works. If you are on your own then be confident to lean on friends and family, not just so you can work but for your self care time too. Find a team that lifts you. Make sure you surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you. Change your circle to be around positivity.
Strengthen your mind
What you read, who you are around, what you listen to will absolutely affect the way you think. When you are around moaning people, you moan more. When you are around happy people, you feel happy. So as often as you can be around books, people, shows that uplift you, grow your brain and make you feel capable. Coaching will benefit you so much. It will build your confidence and encourage you into your uncomfort zone. It’s a scary place to be but you will feel like you are growing. Take the risk, take the chance, take the course. Educate yourself. Make yourself want to be your best. Knowledge is power!
Update your skills all the time. Be ahead of what others are offering. Have a bit more about you. Clients come to you because they like you as a person. Put yourself out there on social media. Some will like you and some wont. And the quicker you get comfortable that some people don’t like you the easier life will be.

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I love the fact that Lana is a super successful business woman but the quote she chose to inspire us isnt about how much our business makes. Its not about materialistic gain, its about what we can offer others and how we are as a person.I loved this interview because Lana and I have such aligned values and its lovely to share them with someone who wants it all like I do.
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